Many of my clients and students say they want to be in a relationship. However, when I ask them how they feel about the word commitment they shudder - and so did I when I first considered it! Give this simple exercise a try; close your eyes and feel the word commitment in your body...what comes forward? How does it feel? Does it feel like warm fuzzies, or like a brick in your stomach?
What I have found is the word “commitment” brings up fear if one is not really committed in a positive way to themselves. What does commitment to oneself mean? Committing to ourselves means learning to love ourselves no matter what. It is about seeking, finding and celebrating our sacredness and our humanness. When we arrive at the place of accepting ourselves, warts and all, we relax into a place of peace, contentment, happiness and wholeness. This is the vibration that naturally attracts loving relationships to us. Where we are within ourselves inevitably determines who we attract and the quality of those relationships.
If we are not committed in a positive way to ourselves, there are usually unconscious commitments running us from behind the scenes. For example, for years I was unconsciously committed to my victim story, to my depression, my unhealthy relationship with food and my angst. You have probably heard the phrase: if you do what you have always done, you will get what you always got. Until I decided to do something different and commit to my healing journey not only did life not work well – it was really painful and scary.
The healing journey consists of clearing out limiting or negative beliefs. When we do this, we naturally align with Spirit. When we release fear and hurt, love is what is left. Once we are in a loving relationship with ourselves and Spirit, the Universe becomes a joy filled, supportive and magical place. But first we have to commit to ourselves. We have to dig in, identify, and release our pain. It is vital to release the blocks that prevent the flow of love and prosperity into our lives. It is as if we have to become the loving and compassionate keeper of our bodies, minds and spirits. Once we do this, commitment is no longer the scary notion it once was. Because we know no matter what we are safe, supported and adored. When we have the foundation of commitment to ourselves, commitment to another is easy.
How do you feel about the word commitment? What are you committed to? Write to me and share your thoughts, I would love to hear from you!